Be Right Or Be In Love

Pride is an important characteristic in a person, but it can also create a lot of pain. As someone who is married to someone who also is very prideful, and also stubborn, my wife and I can have some drag out fights when we both stick our heels in the sand.

Sometimes these fights go on for long and unhealthy periods of time, like weeks or a month. Our last fight was for about a month, and after this month we were no closer to either one apologizing as we both thought the other person was not telling the truth about the events that had occurred. We each wanted an apology from the other one, and neither one of us was going to give it.

So a decision had to be made on whether to hold our position or just let it go. I decided to let it go because the alternative was to hold ground and lead to a divorce. The end result was a vulnerability from both parties understanding that neither one was completely right or wrong. It made us closer because we were saying without saying it that our marriage was more important than being right and getting an apology. The ultimate result was a stronger bond and both of us falling deeper in love.

I am not saying that you should take this route every time, as you don’t want your partner to take advantage of your willingness to resolve an issue. However, when things seem like there is no compromise in sight, then just ask yourself if being right is more important than your partner in life. That apology would have been nice, but being in love with a fantastic person is much much better.